Lord, Let This Family Be Healed

Oh, Lord, sometimes I come across something so incredibly sad that I have trouble believing it's true.

I was going to take out the names, but this is all over the Internet, many blogs have posted the entire obituary so it's pointless to try to hide the names of the deceased woman and her family.

Before you read this, I want you to know that I looked further and found a news story about the author of this obituary. She said that her mother didn't take care of the children, didn't feed them, and beat them every day. She believed that her mother was mentally ill, but was able to fool people outside the family.

Oh, Lord, it's so, so sad. I just want to pray for healing on this entire family.

I know, you're wondering what it is that's bothering me so much. Yes, it is REALLY bothering me, I just don't comprehend the family dynamics that could cause so much pain and suffering. So much that when her mother died, this woman wrote this obituary:

Dolores Aguilar ---------------------1929-Aug. 7, 2008
Dolores Aguilar, born in 1929 in New Mexico, left us on August 7, 2008. She will be met in the afterlife by her husband, Raymond, her son, Paul Jr., and daughter, Ruby. She is survived by her daughters Marietta, Mitzi, Stella, Beatrice, Virginia and Ramona, and son Billy; grandchildren, Donnelle, Joe, Mitzie, Maria, Mario, Marty, Tynette, Tania, Leta, Alexandria, Tommy, Billy, Mathew, Raymond, Kenny, Javier, Lisa, Ashlie and Michael; great-grandchildren, Brendan, Joseph, Karissa, Jacob, Delaney, Shawn, Cienna, Bailey, Christian, Andre Jr., Andrea, Keith, Saeed, Nujaymah, Salma, Merissa, Emily, Jayci, Isabella, Samantha and Emily; I apologize if l missed anyone.

Dolores had no hobbies, made no contribution to society and rarely shared a kind word or deed in her life. I speak for the majority of her family when I say her presence will not be missed by many, very few tears will be shed and there will be no lamenting over her passing. Her family will remember Dolores and amongst ourselves we will remember her in our own way, which were mostly sad and troubling times throughout the years. We may have some fond memories of her and perhaps we will think of those times too. But I truly believe at the end of the day ALL of us will really only miss what we never had, a good and kind mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. I hope she is finally at peace with herself. As for the rest of us left behind, I hope this is the beginning of a time of healing and learning to be a family again. There will be no service, no prayers and no closure for the family she spent a lifetime tearing apart. We cannot come together in the end to see to it that her grandchildren and great-grandchildren can say their goodbyes. So I say here for all of us, GOOD BYE, MOM.

I am honestly at a loss for words.

I read this over and over again.

There is evil in this world, and this family has been horribly scarred by it. I can only pray that they will be healed of their pain and the generational curse will be broken.

Yes, I do think there's a generational curse. Dolores was a sick woman. And her family suffered for it. And they're still suffering, children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren.

Lord, I pray that this family be healed. Let the cycle of child abuse end with Dolores and let the new generations be freed of the chains of mental illness. Let them be healed of the evils of this world so the children can move on and be all that You meant them to be.

And in their healing, Lord, I pray that somehow they can find forgiveness for their mother, and that she may rest in peace.

Lord, let this family be healed.

In Jesus' holy name, Amen.